Simplify Negotiations with the Six Rules of Effective Communication

To negotiate effectively, you must be able to communicate effectively. Unfortunately, most salespeople and businesspeople don’t realize the importance of solid communication skills to the negotiation process. As a result, they lose sales or don’t get the best possible deal.

However, as a salesperson, you are not doomed to the mixed messages and meanings characteristic of poor communication skills. With a conscious effort, all business and sales professionals can overcome the communication barriers that block understanding in negotiation. With a little extra effort, you can improve the delivery of your message to your counterparts and work together toward a mutually beneficial agreement.

Use the following six rules for effective communication to connect with others at the negotiating table and in all forms of communication:

Rule 1: Organize Your Thoughts

Throughout the negotiation process, always allow yourself time to organize your thoughts to avoid conveying the wrong message or confusing the issues. Before you start the negotiation process, and even after it starts, take notes and plan what you’re going to say.

To help you express your thoughts clearly when the negotiations begin, outline in advance the main points you want to cover. Planning the gist of what you’re going to say is the most effective way to avoid sending mixed messages, but don’t stop with that. As the negotiations commence, continue to take notes and plan your responses as you go through the entire process. And remember, no law exists that says every statement must be met with a response within five seconds. Take your time. In fact, silence can be one of your most powerful negotiating tools.

Stop talking whenever you feel like you need to reorganize yourself and before you respond to anything that’s said. And make sure everything you say reflects the true meaning of your thoughts. This tactic not only helps you organize what you’re going to say, but it also helps you digest what your counterpart proposes.

Rule 2: Don’t Think About It; Think Through It

Thinking about something leads to confusion, but thinking through something leads to clarity. The difference between these two processes is a crucial distinction in communication. Many times, people approach negotiations with a mindset of, “Tell it like it is, then let the chips fall where they may.” But by processing an idea through to its logical conclusion, you can evaluate the possible responses you may get from the other side.

For example, if you make an offer and say, “Take it or leave it,” what kind of response would that produce? The other party may say, “Okay, we’ll take it.” They could say, “Thanks, but no thanks.” They could say, “We won’t take it, but here’s what we will accept.” Or they might say, “No one talks to us that way!” and walk out of the room.

A range of possibilities exists, and this tactic requires careful reading of the other person’s reactions. But if you feel from your experiences with the person that they will either accept your offer or your counteroffer, it makes sense to speculate and take the chance. So give some thought to your counterpart’s possible reactions to your points before you actually make them.

Rule 3: Recognize that Actions Speak Louder than Words

Experts say that seventy-five percent of communication is nonverbal. This means that the messages negotiators convey have more to do with their looks, their actions, and the way they say things, than with the actual words they say.

The best negotiators practice saying and doing things in ways that send precisely the message they want to send. The bottom line is that the better you become at using nonverbal communication and reading the nonverbal messages others send, the more effective you can be as a negotiator. Realize that everything you do at the bargaining table is part of the communication and negotiation process. So make sure you don’t send the wrong messages by doing something that conflicts with what you want to say.

Rule 4: Be Concise

Most people tune out a majority of what they hear, so you should always be concise and get right to your point. Say what you mean in as few words as possible, without being blunt. If you drone on, people will stop listening to you. To ensure your message reaches your counterpart, always oversimplify your message, and then elaborate as they ask questions. Repeat your main point several times to emphasize what’s most important.

To boost your negotiating power even more, practice saying everything clearly and concisely, then repeat your key points to yourself again and again. One main problem with negotiation communication occurs when your counterpart gets too wrapped up in what they want to say, that they don’t pay attention to what you say. This is why it is so important to organize your thoughts, and say your main points in a concise, compelling way.

Rule 5: Always Translate Your Message into Benefits for the Other Party

People always listen more carefully when they believe some benefit exists in your message for them. In negotiations, focus on that benefit, even when the underlying purpose of the message is in your favor.

For example, when you interview for a new job, you don’t talk about the huge salary the company can offer you. You talk about all the great skills you can bring to the company, for their benefit. You try to convince them that they’ll be ahead of everyone else by hiring you, regardless of the cost.

As a salesperson, you should always highlight the value of your product or service, rather than the cost. Always talk in terms of what benefits the other party receives as a result of the negotiation terms.

Rule 6: Listen Carefully to the Other Party

If you want to reach a mutually beneficial agreement, you must make sure your message are heard and understood. But don’t get so caught up in your own message that you don’t hear and understand what the other party needs to reach an agreement. Use the following tips for listening more effectively:

  • Open your mind and be receptive to the other party’s message.
  • Make a commitment to listen, and follow through with this commitment as soon as they start to talk.
  • Listen for feelings, as well as facts, and consider the other party’s concerns.
  • Eliminate distractions. Close your door, turn of the radio, and tune in to the other person.
  • Respond to the other party with questions that stimulate conversation and clarify your understanding of his or her message.
  • Take notes on the important points the other party makes, and keep these points in mind as you formulate your responses.

As you improve your listening skills, you increase your negotiating effectiveness by collecting more information to use in your search for solutions. Communication is the Key to Effective Negotiation Communication is a two-way street that requires everyone involved to exchange messages. To negotiate more effectively, you must relate to the other party with strong communication skills. By using these six rules for effective communications, you can overcome barriers, reach a higher level of satisfaction every time you negotiate, and win more sales in the process.

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How to Master Your Material For an Oral Presentation

A good public speaker always knows his material while giving a speech. The speaker must always have a complete knowledge of the subject he is speaking on. After all, a mechanic cannot speak on the right way to cook a steak.

The speaker should be an expert in the subject he is going to deliver a speech on. This is really important as the audience must feel like that the speaker is well informed. If a speaker wants to be seen as a great public speaker, then he must know his craft well enough.

The following are three steps which will help you in learn your material to speak in an oral presentation or public address:

1. Make an outline.

Any oral presentation or public is like a battle for the speaker and it is foolish to fight a battle without any preparation. In order to make your presentation interesting and informative, you should arrange all the required equipments much before the day of the presentation. Research and accumulate all the material you want to study to make your presentation. Read all the material and take out important points which may be useful in your presentation.

Then you can read those points by don’t memorize them as if you forget something during the presentation, then your whole speech will get ruined. While preparing a speech being spontaneous is the best choice. But you must also sound knowledgeable while talking because you may have to answer few questions about your presentation and you should sound confident while answering them. You may look anxious, if you don’t know the topic well.

2. Review the outcome of the actual speech.

Once the speech is prepared, you must review your entire presentation once more. Make sure whether you have covered all the important points in your speech or not. For example, suppose you have to deliver a speech on the Hybrid Technology, now even though may have discussed all the technical terms and other aspects of the technology but have forgotten to give any examples of this technology. Such type of omissions should be rectified.

It is very important to pay due attention to every aspect of the subject you are going to speak on as you may be asked about some topic you forgot to mention from your audience.

3. Rehearse and master your final material.

While given the responsibility of any presentation, you will be told about how long the presentation will run. Hence you must rehearse the entire presentation beforehand to make sure that it runs for the required time only. If your presentation is long then you can shorten it or add some points if it is too short.

Rehearsing also helps us gain our confidence as by hearing ourselves giving the speech we get an idea about the actual presentation and we can also improve any glitches in our speech.

Consultative Selling – Make Your Presentation Unique

In today’s new economy you as a sales professional undoubtedly have hundreds if not thousands of competitors selling a similar product or service. This can be the most difficult problem that sales professionals face. How do you persuade your prospects to buy from you and in turn send you referrals. From a consultative selling position the best way to present your product or service is to differentiate yourself from other sales professionals in your field.

The benefits of differentiating yourself are enormous. Anything you can do to differentiate yourself from all the other sales people out there is going to help. First of all a sale is much easier when you make the purchase unique. Secondly, your customers will refer hordes of qualified prospects to you. And third you can typically charge higher prices than your competitors. Using a consultative selling approach and the unique positioning tends to attract a much more affluent crowd. To get these affluent customers who are not concerned so much about price you have to make sure you get referrals.

So what you need to do is decide on a way of representing yourself and your product or service as incredibly special. From a consultative selling approach you can find out what it is your customers are generally looking for and then use that to differentiate yourself. For instance, in my area we have a plumbing company that is marketed as the smell good plumbers. So we have a choice. I can choose any of the great plumbers in the area or I can choose the plumber that does great work and makes it a point to smell good. Now some customers are not going to be persuaded by the additional benefit. The affluent customers tend to use this service. Why, because the plumbing service is probably just as good as many other plumbers but this company has decided to take the extra step and say that the plumber will not only get the job done, he will also show up on time smelling good. They are not selling themselves as the cheapest but having these other benefits. What additional benefits can you claim to your customers?

How do you apply this to your sales? You need to make yourself and your sales experience unique, interesting and fun. Just think about how much your prospects pay for entertainment monthly. TV, cable or satellite, Internet, movies, magazines, books, music and the list goes on. Its a safe bet that if you can make your sales presentation more interactive and entertaining you will sell more.

Probably the simplest means of making a sales presentation more entertaining is to tell a story that is designed to emotionally involve the prospect. This is an NLP sales tactic that works extremely well for a consultative selling approach. Be sure to structure the story just like a good movie or book. The character is first clueless that there is a problem, then some tragic event takes place, the character lives with the pain for a while, then finally decides to do something about it. Through trial and error the character finds the answer he’s been searching for, finally the end where all is happily ever after the problem is solved. Obviously make the story very much like your own product or service or use the story of some of your other happy clients that are as similar as possible to your prospect.

There are many ways of linking the various emotions brought up in such a story to you and your product and service. Making your story even more unique and your product or service that much different than the other sales professionals.

Ryan Camana is the lead trainer of NLP and Hypnosis for Dynamic Breakthroughs. He specializes in helping sales people and entrepreneurs learn the most effective forms of persuasive communication. Dynamic Breakthroughs mission is to empower people to take control of the unlimited potential of their minds. We improve the world by training people to be leaders in their field with the most advanced self development techniques available.